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Happy New Year 2025

The real luxuries in life:

health,

a quiet mind,

slow mornings,

ability to travel,

rest without guilt,

a good night’s sleep,

calm and “boring” days,

meaningful conversations,

home-cooked meals,

people you love,

people who love you back

Joy does not arrive with a fanfare
on a red carpet strewn
with the flowers of a perfect life
joy sneaks in
as you pour a cup of coffee
watching the sunlight
hit your favourite tree, just right
and you usher joy away
because you are not ready for her
your house is not as it should be
for such a distinguished guest
but joy cares nothing for your messy home
or your bank-balance, or your waistline, you see
joy is supposed to slither through
the cracks of your imperfect life
that’s how joy works
you cannot truly invite her
you can only be ready when she appears
and hug her with meaning
because in this very moment
joy chose you
Donna Ashworth

Mindfulness is not easy, but it is simple. Hello Readers, just back from my Mindful Exercise, it’s the highlight of my day, every day, and I have my Mindfulness teacher along with me, via the power of my smart phone, guiding me wisely. An insightful and amazing Teacher and if you can get on one of Catherine Sutton’s courses, you will be blessed.

The following paragraph is from an unpublished bolg in January 2016, 9 years ago. The speed of life is frightening sometimes. Remember I spoke of the ‘Fork in the Road‘ well I have only just signed the contract for a new exciting position, starting next Monday 18th. and then off for my first global meeting, on the 20th. All go and stomach knotting just the same. I’m making 2016 my mindful challenge. Then I’ll write about it. On the blog. Got this video clip last night and it’s perfect. You may have seen it already. It’s a brilliant animation that gets to the heart of what mindfulness is about. Mindfulness is not easy, but it’s simple

It doesn’t come naturally, that is why it requires a lot of practice.

Mindfulness, for me, is all about stopping and focusing on my breathing, that in itself, takes a ton of practice as the ever chattering mind intrudes continually. It will take time and practice to learn to focus on your breath, while accepting that the chatter will always be there. The difference, is that over time, you will be able to live with, and acknowledge the chatter without jumping back into its emotional malestrom. You will be noticing what’s happening, while all the while staying with the breath. Mindfulness is a practice for the whole of life. It’s about finding a different way to respond to experience throughout our day.

It isn’t about emptying our mind. Our minds produce thoughts, it’s what they’re built for, and our mind keeps on producing them even if we do happen to be meditating. We can become calm and settled by learning to accept our thoughts, making room for them or letting them go. It is always good to remind ourselves that thoughts are just that… thoughts. No need to dwell on them, fight with them, act on them or try to avoid them with drugs or other distractions.

It isn’t a technique. Mindfulness isn’t something you do. It’s a way of being. It isn’t a way to fix our problems. Mindfulness can help eliminate depression, anxiety, stress or chronic pain, but not by fixing them. We learn to relate in a new way to the things that trouble us, rather than trying to make them go away. Having a mindfulness practice is about re-training our minds so that we can cope with whatever comes our way.

It isn’t scientific. Research into the effects of mindfulness and its impact on the mind and body are impressive. It is helping to bring mindfulness into the mainstream. Science can measure what mindfulness does, but it can’t measure what it is. Measuring mindfulness is a science; practising it is an art that requires presence, awareness, connection and living in the moment.

It isn’t a fad. Our communities are becoming more distracted than ever before. Mindlessness is rampant and there is a growing epidemic of mental suffering. Modern culture seems to be focused on wanting more, getting more and having more. Mindfulness is about being grateful in the moment and is here to stay!

Our warmest and sincerest best wishes to everyone reading this blog for a peaceful, contented and healthy 2025.

And one last thought:

Laziness kills ambition

Anger kills wisdom

Fear kills dreams

Ego kills growth

Jealousy kills peace

Doubt kills confidence

Now read that right to left.”

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❅🎀Christmas is upon us. Have a loving one🎀❅

Quarter 4, October (Deireadh Fómhair), November (Samhain) agus December (Nollaig). This blog has many Hyperlinks which are tested and safe. Do click and explore these, as they compliment the blog content.

Alright, I have published a few more blogs in 2024, than I have in the past, but alas, not the monthly frequency I had vaugley hoped for in my “New Years Resolutions“. So just to compound things, here I am publishing a Quarterly blog to end what my softening brain perceived as the fastest most breathless year I have ever encountered. The year of my retirement from work has been as busy as I ever could have imagined. I’m not complaining, mind you, just gobsmacked at the pace of time as I get older. Just before you hopefully meander through these ramblings, I want to say a huge ‘Thank You’ to those of you who made this year another wonderful year in my life, Sure it had its ups and downs but for the most part, 2024 has been a super year. I have other “thank you’s” below so do read on please.

Facinating words from a facinating African-American writer, James Baldwin The longer I live, the more deeply I learn that love — whether we call it friendship or family or romance — is the work of mirroring and magnifying each other’s light. Gentle work. Steadfast work. Life-saving work in those moments when life and shame and sorrow occlude our own light from our view, but there is still a clear-eyed loving person to beam it back. In our best moments, we are that person for another. I am absolutely blessed with friends and family who constantly act as that ‘clear-eyed person’ for me. To you all I am eternally grateful and I will try very, very hard to pay it forward.

October

is our mystical transition to the beautiful Autumn/Winter season. With harvest celebrations, fruit preserving, apple tarts, Halloween celebrations and much much more. We’ve even had Northern lights in Carrigaline (and my first time seeing them). This time is a return to October Soups and fresh rolls, Kilkee goodbyes, frosty mornings, autumn colours and falling leaves, and in other parts of my world, there is October Lemonade and Horseriding. What a world. Below is a small collection of snaps for October 2024.

October arrived and, whoosh, it was over.

My October Playlist – Much as I know music, is so personal, individual and emotive, I tend to make playlists for different months of the year. A selection of my October Songs for 2024. A few of them were recalled while watching the new ‘Shrinking’ TV series which get to see if you can. It’s funny, quirky, left field and stars a sprightly 82 year old, Harrison Ford. There is hope for us all. Many others are songs that relate to October just for me. Feel free to listen and chop and change to your personal taste. 1hr.17m.

October, Deireadh Fómhair, End of Harvest

November, Samhain, Celebrating the end of the Harvesting season.

December, Nollaig,  Originating from the Latin for Christmas.

November

Jeepers, what can I say about November, apart from the fact it also went by in a blink. But, something wondeful did happen. I didn’t shave for the month, and jumped on the Movember crusade. I am so grateful to everyone for their patience and huge generousity.

Movember is an annual event involving the growing of moustaches during the month of November to raise awareness of Men’s Health issues, such as prostate cancertesticular cancer, and men’s suicide.[1] It is a portmanteau of the Australian-English diminutive word for moustache, “mo”,[2] and “November”.[3] The Movember Foundation runs the Movember charity event, housed at Movember.com.[4] The goal of Movember is to “change the face of men’s health.”[5]

Let these words below live rent free in your brain

Fear doesn’t stop death, it stops life.

If it costs you your peace, it’s too expensive.

People only see the decisions you made, not the choices you had.

Never take criticism from someone you wouldn’t take advice from.

“No.” is a complete sentence. You don’t have to justify yourself.

The magic you’re looking for is in the work you’re avoiding.

Ships are safe at harbour, but that’s not what they’re built for.

If you don’t sacrifice for what you want, what you want, becomes the sacrifice.

Ambition without action becomes anxiety.

“Obsessed” is what stuck people call ambitious people.

To live a life most people don’t live, you have to be willing to do what most people don’t do.

You really can do anything, but not everything. Focus

If you want to make the wrong decision, ask everyone.

Those who do not move do not notice their chains.

If you can be in a bad mood for no reason, you might as well be in a good mood for no reason.

It’s okay to live a life most don’t understand.

If someone could only see your actions and not hear your words, what would they say your priorities are?

We do not see things as they are. We see things as we are.

No risk. No story

Christmas was the primary reason findmywhy.blog came into being. At its best, It’s a season of hope, reconnection, reflection, joy, smiles, laughter, reaching out, saying thanks, reminising and much much more. We all know, it is also a time of sadness, lonliness, heartbreak and a whole lot more, but the absolute beauty of Christmas is that it is all about connection. Stay connected, stay in touch, even if it is only in your heart. There are many, many Christmas publications if you care to deep dive. Have a loving one.

A hilarious funny Christmas Time Story from Paul Howard, AKA Ross O’Carroll Kelly I am very lucky to have had a few day’s with one of my best buddies in the absolutely amazing Spanish city of Malaga. Direct flights from Cork and Basel in Switzerland, so it suited our ‘meet-up’ plans. The Christmas lights of Malaga were a stroke of good fortune and timing, which we got to witness. Both me and Leon worked Pharmaceuticals / SAP projects together and we have remained the best of friends for the past two decades. Our beautiful Australian Fam were on the beach at 8am in the morning in 28deg. heat this weekend for some seasonal shots. Elaine and Rory celebrate Christmas in the scorching sun. While we brave the Christmas Day Swim but in our hearts ‘they are with us’.

Donna Ashworth (is one of my favourite modern day poets. Here are some of her beautiful words for the time that is in it.

Lastly, June 2025 is my aim to do a small bit of the Camino Santiago de Compostela. I’m planning on doing the (a difficult enough trek) St. Jean Pied de Porte to Pamplona, Camino Francés. In training ATM.

Nice Video from ‘Days we Spend’ on the section of the Camino. St.Jean to Pamplona

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Bealtaine ’24

Bealtaine (May) 2024 has all but passed. The speed of time can be VERY scary. May is the transitional month for most of us. Cold, rainy, chilly with sporadic ‘amazing’ summery days that hint of the June, July and August potential for our souls. I stress potential, as we all know, those potentially incredible ‘Summers’ are not always realised. A silent prayer is always welcome. :-). As with ALL my blogs, I have tested and checked all links and they are safe and, I think anyway, worth exploring.

For sure, this is science based blog, but I promise, is easy to understand ‘Science’ that will improve your life.

“BIG Fat Fluffy Brain” and “Why we got such a BIG BRAIN“, are just two takeaways from these 2 Podcasts. For the Month of May 2024, I’m going to offer you a glimpse of ‘Potential’. Truth be told, you will have heard ALL of this in so many ways, before reading this blog. The only thing I can offer is that the two Podcasts included in this May 2024 blog will probably make significant improvements across your life and ‘COULD’ likely extend your life significantly, but guaranteed it will make you feel better, enjoy better health, mood and provide a financial bonus with the reduced medical and pharmacological expenses.

For both of these Podcasts I am giving you both a Spotify Link and also a YouTube Link so hopefully you will have access to the Podcasts in one way or another. And, folks all I can say is they are truly worth the Listen. Daniel Lieberman’s Spotify Podcast, https://open.spotify.com/episode/4zx4McH7KfdjLke10HPDYv?si=e865f340ed474273 and Wendy Suzuki’s Spotify Podcast, https://open.spotify.com/episode/03rMVoXiRooF37nsaZRvy4?si=2366f3aa3e424d9f and YouTube follow.

Ignoring the ‘click bait’ headline, Dr. Daniel Lieberman, Professor of Human Evolutionary Biology is easy listening, I promise. Might be worth having a pen and paper for making notes.
Again, ignoring the ‘Click Bait’ headline for this YouTube video, Dr Wendy Suzuki is a Professor of Neural Science and Psychology at New York University, and helps you to get to a BIG FAT FLUFFY BRAIN.

Finally for this May 2024 Blog I want to report a startling fact, that I have just become aware of, the “Kingdom of Kerry” is stunning. Was very lucky to get a most incredible two days for a trip from Carrigaline to Portmagee in Co. Kerry to visit the ancient monastic settlement of Skellig Micheál, a UNESCO World Heritage Site, 11km of the South West Coast of Ireland. What a trip, what a memory.

This was a bucket list trip, a once in a lifetime experience that will live long in the memory. I will compile a ‘YouTube’ video of my experience and post in a later blog. I met some amazing people on this short journey, including Felix from ‘Sweden’, an avid Star Wars Super Fan, who was appropriately attired in an elaborate ‘Luke Skywalker’ costume, truly fitting for a Super Fan. And our incredible guide for our trip, Ken Casey of Casey’s Skellig Island Tours. If you get even the remotest chance of taking this trip, go for it. May the force be with you.

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